First “Impressions”? Yeah, I could see why for an interview maybe because you really want or need that job, sometimes you have to make a stretch. After all, they can’t fire you when the charm you had in the interview suddenly leaves after the first month on the job—its business as usual.
For everyday, normal people? I fail to see the reverence. You may counter argue that maybe one day these normal, everyday people may be in a position one day to do some extraordinary things. It is true, however, if I only interacted with people who I thought would “be somebody” one day, I’d be cheating myself out of my own potential. In situations like these, reality can get you kicked out the door as fast as illusion got you into it; it’s not an interview with laws to protect you after the fact. Beyond this, when most people do things “extraordinary” for you, it’s a give and take situation. Nothing not given freely will ever come freely.
Typically at this point, there are many who are hung up on trying to make a “good ” first, second, and third “impression”, so in reality you don’t really get to know them until after the fact anyway, and that could be a good or bad finding.
It reminds me of children who don’t feel comfortable being themselves, as they have to “fit in” somewhere, like a piece to a puzzle, so they pretend. The sad part about this is a lot of people will go through their entire lives not ever being able to freely be themselves–that is, be comfortable being themselves around others.
Maybe just being one’s self isn’t as impressive as pretending to be something else for most people. My “impression” is just me being me—but then that’s not an “impression” at all; it’s reality and incapable of becoming washedout. I’d prefer to be around people who are more in touch with themselves and the latter; those are the people who impress me, not the WashedOut Impressions– but the lasting and truthful reality being that they are genuine and there truly aren’t too many of their kind left in the world.
I agree! (first time, for everything huh? lol)
Corporate zombies, visonless idealist , & carbon copied “doers” are my greatest foes.
For the most part, I’m outcasted a bit because i’m myself. I used to try to fit into a mold set by my parents, later my friends, then one I casted myself into.
It was never nothing to the point where I lost myself in the process, because I always knew I was doing it. It was for a purpose. You wear the suit & tie. Smile, don’t grip or shake too hard. Almost a robotic second “me” that was programmed to “Act right” And don’t get me wrong I think there is a place and time for everything.
I’ve just over the years, carved out my distinct personality that I’m not willing bend too much to satisfy other’s. I stopped wearing suits to interviews, because I stopped going to interviews where I had to wear suits. I parlayed my relaxed vibe to a lifestyle, career, & philosophy that I rarely stray for. And i’m much happier.