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Beauty of a Black Woman

So, I ran across one of my favorite blogs to run across when I get a opportune to run, and I saw this quote from Bill Cosby

On hair extensions: “Don’t pin Korean hair on a black head. If you’re going to love a black woman, love all of her.”

 It’s seldem that I don’t see a black woman/girl getting praised for having long, flowy hair (permed or natural)–either by another female or male–and frowned upon for letting their hair go naturally and unpermed. That implies that these people believe this type of hair is superior/better than hair that is not long and flowy. I mean, just the other day, I overheard some guy tell this girl that she had “good” hair. I said to myself…aww man, not his again. She laughed and asked him what he meant by that. He replied, “it’s long and stringy like white people’s hair” He had to be at least 25. What’s the year again?

Then I hear: “Oh, no I don’t mean it that way! I just mean it’s easier to manage!” …..but even natural, curly hair is easier to manage, that is, if you’d take the same time to manage it has you would permed hair.
There are many, many insecurities of the average black woman and a bulk of them have to do with her appearance. Sure, every women has insecurities regardless of race with physical appearance at times, but I feel black women, in general, tend to have more than others. The reasoning for this is vast and wide–due to family, “friends”, men, and even strangers. Due to the history, the present and the near future. Oh, there are a lot of reasons but not enough validity.
Hair in the sense that a lot of people still hold on tightly to this good hair bad hair myth so as a result there are hair weaves of every color and texture imaginable and harsh chemical perms administered at the first sign of natural growth. Skin /eye color in the sense that the most advertised black woman is the one who looks closer to white than to black and I‘ve seen countless black men and women with contacts the color of anyone else’s eyes but their own. Attitude in the sense that there is this bad stigma about black women having bad attitudes. Love in the sense that many black women will never find that prince charming black man…because as of right now, the statistics just don’t show. All of this almost gives the message, the closer I am to who I naturally am, the worse off I am.
….but the beautiful black woman. She’s not endowed in this eventful game. Her love is that of a women who loves fully and intensively those who love her with the same amount of fullness and intensity outright because of and in spite of. Her hair and eyes are naturally her own and she’s content with that. Despite the negative comments from her family or “friends” insisting she should perm her hair. In fact, any man who is not content with it, she’s not content with him but she‘s still content with herself and remains confident in herself. Why would she be confident in a situation like that? EVERYONE seems to dislike this decision and EVERYONE has an opinion about it. Who would have thought that hair in it’s natural state would invoke such dislike. Recognized as such or not, it is also a dislike for self. I mean, after ALL this time. Sometimes you think, people have problems accepting differences, but this is not difference, this is natural and the alteration of the natural is the real difference.
Well………..why shouldn’t she be confident when this is who she is, and this is how she was created, beautifully so and without the “aid” of anything. Black , thick, curly hair, full lips, curly eye lashes, dark brown almond shaped eyes, smooth chocolate or medium brown skin, graceful curves. Her attitude is that of a women who knows who she is and what she does not want and she does not compromise that for anyone because for years she has been the compensation of everyone. Why should she compensate? Better yet, what or who the hell is she compensating for?
We were all created by design and the design was never flawed, the work put into the design was never more or less, but the amount of thought that is put into appreciation of the design is fixated on everything that design was never meant to be and nothing that design truly is.

 

 

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2 Comments»

  M. Anderson wrote @

What have I told you about quoting Bill Cosby?

I agree with you black women are beautiful, but I think they are beautiful in any state. Any shade, any hairstyle, any waistline, etc. True beauty is not what is seen on the outside. So regardless of having natrual hair, permed hair, etc. it’s only just an outside look of who you are.

It’s about being satisfied with oneself. So if that Korean hair makes “Lisa” feel good about herself, what’s wrong with that? If “Lisa” wants to rock some blue eyes today, what’s wrong with that? It’s the mentality that those things make you who you are. Or that it makes you more beautiful, or your doing it for outside acceptance. If you are comfortable in your own skin you can rock a afro, permed locks, whatever. The things mentioned are just accessories anyway.

And you know I’m just playing “D.A.” at the moment but I can truly say I love a black woman in any state, as long as she loves herself.

  Dr. Rebel wrote @

We have covered this issue on Fusion Radio International several times before. Yes, African American women are beautiful in any state, as it pertain to the physical. However, in personality, all women are subject to falling short being gracious or reasonable. Black women, like Black men, often times carry a chip on there shoulder. This is due to the fact that African Americans are referred to as minorities. This term employ social isolation which in turn promote a multitude of ethnic, cultural and racial biases. If African American men and women drop there cultural identity and ethnic heritage, then a new evolutionary state of mind would emerge. Yes, it is true that they would know longer carry the burden of being Black or African however, what will emerge is known in today in certain Ivy League research studies as, “The New Majority.”


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