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I was not born anywhere on the continent of Africa, I am only of African decent, as is everyone, although I am most noticeable in appearance. I also can not claim to know all about life’s struggles and troubles in the many countries the continent embodies; I don’t think anyone can truly attest to this but the dead and suffering. I am merely a descendent of African Diaspora. What do I know? I could not possibly offer any denouement, even with careful exegesis. Besides, I am insouciant, you know….living in America born and raised here—in the land of seemingly endless opportunity. EVERYONE has tried to solve the problems of Africa, yet no one has the answer(s). The government is corrupt, they say, and it’s people are sycophant, so there is really nothing….anyone can do to alter any of this. Perhaps, some say, Africa is an anathema. In fact, very few are sanguine about the future of Africa as it stands presently, which saps overall hope  and successfully flags others. I have heard many Africans say that Americans are so blind about the world and what happens in it, not realizing that everything that goes on in the world effects them too, either directly or indirectly. I concur; it is true; there is a lot of that going on. I would, like to add another group to the list as well—able Africans themselves.

The are many Africans who love their countries, in culture and in their people, but a lot of that love is obviously conditional. Then some are appalled by the fact that their “Americanized” offspring do not know their mother tongue in a voluble manner. There should be an exact that everyone going abroad to study must contribute to their country in some way for a certain amount of time after attaining degrees and table those not willing to comply. What cause do I have to say all of this? Some will come to America and go throughout Europe to attain different degrees and avarice, which hardly goes to the advancement of their own land—mostly it goes to the advancement of America and countries of Europe. This is especially saddening for Africa. I understand there is a process to this whole thing; I am talking about people with PhDs—the highest attainable degree—- still here or somewhere else other than home, who are not at least essaying something for the betterment of Africa. There are people who are not as able as people with PhDs doing more—this is a cardinal wrong.

Then when all hell breaks loose in their countries, as it often does, they complain and grumble but do nothing to alleviate the situation. Just as someone rails about the American government, under which I live, and all the fallacies by which it is enriched, but never attempts to make a difference in whatever they are grousing about…they really are not justified to complain; the same can be said here.

Certainly, most will send money “back home” to loved ones to help sustain their families, however, how many actually go back and home and try to DO something about their beloved country’s situations? In these cases, I am not so sure that it is love for one’s country so much as it is an attempt to seem consequential. I can hear the seething of someone’s teeth as I am typing these words; the truth hurts sometimes, but only it will set you free—not excuses because honestly, there really is no excuse. What do I mean?

Think about it for a minute. Just like me, you are in the safety of carefree America or Europe, land of the free, home of the brave; both of which are basically viewed as an apotheosis. Unlike you or I however, there are many people on that vast continent of Africa that actually LIVE there, not who were just born there and are now looking out from the safe haven of the US recalling some distant memory called “home” or merely going for a little visit—a lot of these people are struggling to survive each minute of their lives from common colds and other common disease that are easily treatable, hunger, thrist, AIDS while we, yes able Africans included, are enjoying the luxury of AC and internet; this is suppose to be your allegiance.

What can one do? Anything is better than nothing in dire situations such as these. I am not, in any way suggesting these things are an easy task, hardly anything in life comes easy, but to at least attempting to make a difference, is much better than doing nothing at all; to do nothing is simply pusillanimous.  Small things amount to bigger things if done by a lot of people and consistantly. Those who are chauvinist for the good cause, people who remonstrate and get jailed, those who participate in the dirge of fallen heroes who fight for the struggle are better than those who sit silently and do nothing. Someone writing a book, starting an organization, participating in ANY way is better than someone doing nothingFunny enough, those living in carefree America are at a better position to do this than those people back in Africa because they are putting themselves constantly in harms way and risk loosing everything even when they had little to begin with—but they don’t quail and they actually do it. There are people from other countries outside of Africa doing more for Africa than some people who are more able or equally able who are African and this is Africa’s fight more so than it is anyone else’s. It’s called sacrifice and it’s called love, and real love is unconditional.  Some have tried to do zero and claim nothing can be done; this is a sign of hopelessness at its worse. Keep waiting on the world; you’ll be there for a while. To all the people who do contribute other than sending bundles of money home every now and then for family, I truly admire you. It is only logically meet, that the only people who are truly going to save Africa is Africans, not the world.

Tyra Banks|Black Women|State of|the Union

There is an increasing number of educated and/or independent, black women…we’ll call them “EIBW”and a decreasing amount of these women who are actually getting married. Why is this? I have perused this situation.

These newly breed EIBW typically recant the same, old “gender roles” their parents probably assumed. The normal “duties” such as: cooking, cleaning, and taking care of children for a woman are becoming more uniform being that both parties are leading very busy and ambitious lives. There really aren’t too many professions that a man is in that you won’t at least see one woman.

Black males from broken homes as well as homes where their fathers were present, typically saw their mothers and grandmothers assume the role of caretaker, provider, cleaning, and cooking while their fathers either not around at all, doing his own thing, or those who were around just as providers, and fixing things around the house for the most part. Sometimes male egos are objected to the idea of actually having to take care of a child, let alone provide for the child financially, because often it is seen as something “feminine” to rock a child to sleep, give a child a bottle, bath, or change a diaper. At most, they would play with the child when it’s happy or take the child to daycare but no real caretaker position is usually assumed. You may hear things like “it’s a woman’s job” or “I don’t know how to do this or that”. It’s called learning, lest one forgets no female is born knowing how do take care of a child in any way; she had to learn too. Therefore, it’s safe to say that these statements are merely excuses for not wanting to take part in these responsibilities. Further proof of this is in the increasing number of black males who are fathering children but not married to the woman/women who mother their children who throw their child(ren) off on their (the male’s) mothers and grandmothers to take care of the child when it’s their (the male’s) “ turn” to take care of and spend time with their (the male’s) child(ren).

Of course, none of this applies to everyone meeting this demography, but a lot of it has to do with their (black males and females) upbringing and the “roles” that their mothers, grandmothers, and fathers played or didn’t play. For some black females, there is resentment, so to speak, from being inured—in the fact that their mothers and grandmothers were seemingly overwhelmed by daily housework, children, cooking, and cleaning— almost single handedlyand all the while working (as someone’s employee) just as hard and pulling just as many hours as their father. It typically wasn’t so much, for the woman of that time, ambition as it was trying to make “ends meet”. Some of these females even had to assume responsibility at a very early age to help their mother with these things and to raise younger siblings.

         There is hardly the “stay at home” mom mentality, especially with EIBW. A lot of black men are intimated by EIBW and their mentality. Maybe this kind of black male’s need to control and call all the shots in an evolving society were women are just as ambitious and hard working as men causes conflict. Perhaps they (the males) are confused of their role as the “male” in such cases. Sometimes egos are bruised at the idea of a woman making more money than a man and many of these EIBW are making close to, if not right at six figures. As Tyra mentioned, 73% of interracial marriages involve black men. One audience member, on Tyra’s show,  made the statement that if things keep going they way they are, black women (In America) will be extinct.  A black man’s “trophy wife” (marrying a woman based on looks or ethnicity alone) doesn’t have to be white, although typically whites are the ultimate prize, being erudite usually doesn’t matter. They could be mixed (black and other), Latino, Brazilian, Pilipino, etc. Trophy wives for black males are any other than that of black or the closest from black.

 It is rare that you find an EIBM (man) with an EIBW; there seems to be a conflict of interest. You may hear things like: “Black women have attitudes and are irascible” “A good black woman is hard to find”. This is an indication that the black male finds “otherseasier to “manage”; it indicates that they (others) don’t speak their minds as much and are more submissive and reticent (typically these are gold-diggers or those who depend on a man for their very livelihood).  I don’t believe speaking your mind and being honest with yourself and those around you makes one intransigent. The words “good woman” is subject to ones own interpretation. Of course, none of this applies to everyone meeting this demography but this is the current trend.