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Motown|Legend

Marvin Pentz Gaye was born April 2, 1939 in the country’s capital, Washington, D.C.

Marvin Gaye is one of the best musicians to ever live— his double Grammy-winning music with numerous hits to top the billboard charts in the 1960s and 70s is evidence through the better half of the Motown Era– Detroit. Unfortunately, Motown’s move from Detroit to LA lost much of its essence and soul.  I personally think that lose of Marvin’s creativity during the LA- Motown years may have very well been a lost of Motown all together.

 Ebony Magazine named Marvin Gaye as one of the 25 Coolest Brothers of All Time:

 

WHAT MAKES Marvin COOL:  

Marvin moves us. Whenever we hear him, we feel. This complex artist, Marvin Pentz Gaye, sang about “The Ecology” when it wasn’t hip to be green–“Mercy Mercy Me“—and about trigger-happy policin’ when cop brutality didn’t make the news. Now when we get the “Inner City Blues“, we all wanna holler and throw up both our hands. He fearlessly asked us “What’s Going On,” and his defiant declaration still resonates today–War is not the answer. He was vulnerable in love, willing to disclose his desire—“I Want You“—yet only going so far—-I want you to want me too. And when his lady was hesitant, he insisted they not waste time together. “Let’s Get It On,” he urged—-because after all, givin’ yourself to me can never be wrong, if the love is true. Marvin, we still feel you.     —Candi Mariwether

 

Gaye was an amazing singer, producer, composer, songwriter, and multi-instrumentalist; his creative music could move even the most stagnate of hearts and minds—listening to him today has the same effect. It’s called a “Classic”.

 Shortly after the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Marvin was deeply affected as was the rest of the African American community, and started writing and performing songs that dealt more with political and social awareness. One of my all time favorites and one of his biggest hits: “What’s Going On?”: Listen

Mother, mother, there’s too many of you crying
Brother, brother, brother, there’s far too many of you dying
You know we’ve got to find a way
To bring some lovin’ here today, hey
Father, father, we don’t need to escalate
War is not the answer, for only love can conquer hate
You know we’ve got to find a way
To bring some lovin’ here today
Picket lines and picket signs
Don’t punish me with brutality
Talk to me, so you can see
Oh what’s going on, what’s going on
Yeah, what’s going on, ah, what’s going on
Ahhh….
Mother, mother, everybody thinks we’re wrong
Ah but who are they to judge us
Simply ‘cos our hair is long
Ah you know we’ver got to find a way
To brind some understanding here today

 Marvin Gaye died on April 1, ironically one day before his birthday and two years before my birth, a tragic death at the hands of his father as he was shot to death in his parent’s Los Angeles home. Marvin was only 44 years old.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Unspoken “Rules”|Color Complex

In general, there is this idea  that some black people have…….. that there is actually something wrong/negative with having dark skin (see Mental|Black|Bondage), which is all together unintelligent considering that dark skin is the ultimate “blackness”; it is the foundation, root, and therefore life source of all the different array of colors seen in the black tree (race) . See (Skin Deep|REALLY Deep

 Simply put:  A tree (the black race) without it’s roots(the black element) does not exist.
The first step is acknowledging that there is a problem.

Common Ideas:

  • Light skin is more attractive than dark skin

The key word here is skin, determining someone’s beauty solely based on the color of their skin ….obviously, there’s a little more than just “preference” at play.

– Many blacks resort to skin bleaching for lighter skin

 -I have personally heard and know of blacks who have children by  white, mixed, or very light skin guys/women to increase the probability of having a light skinned baby .

-I have personally heard and know of blacks who would not have a child with a dark skin man/woman for fear of  having a dark skin baby

Comments often directed to attractive dark skin black people:

“She/he is pretty/attractive to be dark skin”| “She/he is pretty/attractive to be a black girl/guy

Comments often directed to attractive/unattractive light skin black people:

 In AmericaRed-Bone” is a name given to light skin blacks– like something different from being black all together. In Jamaica they are called Brownin” .

Dark skin slurs:

Blackie”|“Tar baby”|”Tar”|“African” |”Skillet“|” Shadow” (All referring to dark skin tone)

African” is used in complete ignorance with the mindset that all Africans have very dark skin.

Light skin slurs:

High yellow”|“House nigger”|“Conceited” (All referring to light skin tone)

House nigger” is in a historical context when the lighter skinned black slaves were allowed to work in the house with the white slave owners, while darker skin slaves were forced to work outside in fields.

  • Dark skin people should not wear bright colors like (cloths, makeup, etc): Yellow, orange, red, lime green etc.

                       (Oluchi)

In truth, however, when darker skin people wear brighter colors, it makes their skin tones more appealing, as it brings out and complements their skin tone. Try colors like turquoise, peach, soft yellows, bright yellows.  It’s really a plus for anyone to wear color, but a double plus for people of darker hue because it makes your skin more noticeable.

  • Speak “properly” around whites /Speak “ebonics/street” around other blacks

This is a classic, some people have their “white cent” and their “black cent” and they use them when around either white or black people respectively. Just stirve to be a better you everyday and be yourself around everyone!

  • Many blacks are considered “stuck up”| “Sell outs” etc. and such if they go against things…much like the ones I’ve already stated. You’re not black or you’re stuck up if you….

Don’t go “clubbin

Don’t speak “hood

Don’t support some of these ridiculous, almost blackface… black “parody” movies

  • Bad hair

Bad hair is seen as basically the natural state of mostly every black person’s hair–small, tight curls; it is often called  “nappy” or “kinky

  • Natural hair/dreads is seen as being “Afrocentic

So I suppose relaxed/chemically altered hair is “Eurocentric

  • Relaxed/chemically altered hair

Chemically alters hair, straightens hair, even burns scalp/hair

Female children usually start getting their hair relaxed at age 5& up

Check out India.Arie’sI am not my hair

  • Good hair

Good hair is seen as soft, loose curls, straight with the texture is more stringy and Caucasian-like

– I know of people that have children with someone of another race or the same race who supposedly has “good hair” so that the child will have a higher probability of having supposedly good hair

The next step is dealing with the problem by loving who you are, directly and indirectly, inside and out. There are beautiful black people, dark and light. There are beautiful black people all over the world who are not light skin and are as dark chocolate as wet sand lit only by  moonlight (another post).

  Top: (Josephine Rukia) Bottom: (Kaone)

             Skin color —some black people argue— is preference, but is it really? Then I ask….preference for what? For maintaing a white is right attitude?…because…if someone is attractive, they are attracitve with or without having light or dark skin. Free yourself from slave-like mentality lest you press your children and future generations with the same burden many of us already have. Embrace your blackness by loving yourself.

 

White|Power

So here’s a theory about White supremacy and racism:

It’s all about power, it’s all about control, it’s all about self-importance, so they each play their particular roles. Think of it as a mirror. As a black person or nonwhite person, you look into this mirror and see racism for what it is.

  • Lower class whites vocalize blunt, racial slurs and negative stereotypes; these things are looking back at you as you look into the mirror.
  •  Middle class whites are there to justify this racism by saying and acting as if it doesn’t exist and it’s in your mind; the mirror is merely broken or flawed. You can not depend on a mirror to give you an accurate reflection.
  • Finally, you have the white upper class, running everything. They are the ones in most of the high positions, employing the working class blacks and others. More than this, they are the ones who created and sustain the mirror.

 It’s important not to get the roles confused because you will offend the classes.

Envious|Nature|of Women

 

 I realize this title may seem to some like a sweeping generalization or even a hyperbole. However, from my own empirical experiences, I’d beg to differ.  To some, it may even seem like a good thing to have people envious of you (Usher Raymond’s “Pop Your Collar”), but in truth envy and jealousy is never a good thing for the person who is envious or the person who is being envied; it can easily turn into fuel for hate (envy-er) and vain self-importance (envy-ee). I’d like to point out a few things about this envious nature in case you are confused. Let me note, age does matter, typically younger women, or women who still consider themselves to be young mostly fall into this category and it isn’t everybody but it’s a lot of bodies in my experience—it doesn’t matter state or city.

  1. TypeA who is gregarious and loves attention sees typeB who’s not into the “spotlight” mentality getting…with little to no effort…the same attention if not more attention than typeA— typeA now feels relegated and is now upset with typeB; it doesn’t matter if they know each other or not.  
  2. You’re out  (mall, movies, grocery store, etc) …you don’t have to be dressed up over the top or anything..you have an extemporaneous look, maybe even dressed down… just handling your business and you pass a female stranger (white) and she looks at you with annoyed intimidation mildly glazed in her eyes…starting from your face…then down the rest of your body and then stares into your face again. The look says, “Just who do YOU think you are?
  • For another woman (black American)…the motion is the same, maybe just staring into your face or looking up and down your body, but the look is different. This look says “You ain’t ALL that”.
  • From another woman (Asian, Latina, African, other) the look is stupefied disbelief, like “Impossible….”

It’s the expression on their faces that tell all and I don’t even think they are even aware of their expression, but obviously me looking back into their faces, I can plainly see it for what it is.

Of course, I’ve had more positive experiences with this as well (white, black, other) they would look, and nothing is wrong with that but, guess what? They don’t have that look of annoyed intimidation of their faces and they speak  or smile  (an authentic smile). It’s a look of admiration, if nothing more. Some will say they appreciate your outfit or your beauty; some will simply say hello. I mean seriously, it is rude, to look and stare and have an ugly expression on your face all at once and not even say “Hi” or have some better acknowledgement.

  • Just to throw another out there because there are many, you have females of any and every race and background that are with their boyfriends/husbands, and as you pass, she all of a sudden, holds him close or literally moves his face to another direction, some even dare him to look your way and again gives you the “look” (laughs). It’s really sad and onerous. It’s mostly insecurity about self. Get beyond that by loving yourself, first.

Some women don’t have a lot of female friends, some not any because of this envious nature and I can relate. Also as a result, most of them have more male friends than female. Yes, just friends not friends with benefits. They may say things like,” They are jealous of me” or “They start too much drama”. Now maybe some of you, who were fortunate enough to find true sisterhood (love, unity, and honesty), may think something is wrong with the person who says any of those things. Maybe it is them and not the other woman they accuse. Well, maybe you are right, but can that be true in every situation? It’s highly unlikely. I have many personal experiences with people I actually knew and was close to, but that will have to wait another day in  another blog entry .On a higher note though, I’ve always believed that having a few good friends, male and/or female,  is much better than having 15  lousy “friends”.